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Choose the Topic you would like Al to Address: Choose a Topic Below... Love Sex Pregnancy Loneliness Priorities Too Busy Insecurity Material things Rejection Anger Forgiveness Suicide a Sin Witness God's Will Ministry Satanism Security Death Salvation? I feel suicidal Bad Language Drugs/Alcohol Addiction Gossiping and/or Lying Guilt Trust Smoking or Dipping? Abortion Occult Suffering My parents hate me Rebelling Obedience Sharing Jesus with Parents Divorce Question 34. My parents are divorced and always fighting. They use me to get back at each other and this hurts me. What should I do? Divorce is a horrible thing. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). There’s never anything good that comes from divorce, regardless of how many problems there were in the marriage. When adults do not part as friends, the results are devastating to the children. Bitterness toward an ex-husband or ex-wife can blind a parent to what he is doing to a child. Your parents are not trying to deliberately hurt you. They have been so badly hurt themselves that they cannot see the pain they are causing you. The only way to put the brakes on their destructive actions is to confront them with the truth. Do this in love, not anger, and do it honestly. If you are not strong enough to do this alone, ask your pastor, youth minister, or an adult your parents respect to help you. The best way is to have both parents in the same room together. The adult you choose can help you explain your feelings and be a "referee" with your parents if necessary. Your parents divorce was not your fault. You probably have a lot of hurt and anger inside as a result of the divorce. Find a Christian counselor who can help you work through your anger. Do not carry all that hurt into your own marriage or you may end up in a divorce court too. MALACHI 2:16 "I hate divorce," says the Lord God of Israel, "and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the Lord Almighty. So guard yourself in the spirit, and do not break faith.